There is this crazy controversy right now because recently one mom felt the need to tell her sons’ friends on Facebook that they don’t want to see them braless and posing provocatively. Some moms agreed and some moms are all up in arms about it. This is what I have to add:
Please don’t rip apart another mom for not saying it right or taking a stand for her family. I read all the viewpoints. The one that really bothers me though is somebody’s daughter going, “THAT’S what they think of me? Fine! I’ll just go out and BE it then!” It’s a defiant attitude that blames their life choices on someone else and it doesn’t take into account teaching them personal responsibility. Don’t go blaming someone else for the way your daughter receives what was meant to be a corrective message. We NEED those corrective messages to give us balance because we are so skewed the other way with constant messages that say do it your own way and find your “own truth”, as if such a thing really exists outside of The One who IS The Truth and The Way. YES, we need these messages to be filled with grace, yes, with love, but stop being so defensive.
We NEED to start be concerned more with our own actions other than someone else’s. The bottom line is that we are all mom’s wanting the best for our kids, and yeah, that includes your kids too, but just being ultra-protective of our own children isn’t solving the problem, when what we really NEED to do is band together that what is in the media - tv, news, magazines at the grocery store, movies, social media, etc. – is completely UNACCEPTABLE, that it’s NOT REALITY and start teaching our girls to be rebellious where it really counts – toward the worldly culture that tries to mold them into the competition game that’s doomed from the start because no girl can ever win that way. She’ll never measure up or be good enough or be the best looking or the world’s most desired female.
I’m not mad at you! I’m not mad at the mom next door! I’m not mad at the teenage girl onstage! I’m MAD that we keep letting our culture dictate to our kids who they are and what they’re worth.
Come on, WE are the parents! WE are the role models, WE make the difference in our kid’s lives. WE get the ultimate say, not the media, not the peers, not the pervert trying to make money off of our daughters and our sons by telling them to take it off or put a sexual image out there.
We need to start saying that sex DOESN’T sell. We need to start saying to our girls, and that’s a collective “ours”, that “You’re still beautiful, desirable, sexy, intelligent, valuable, worth it, noticed, loved even if you don’t post provocative pictures of yourself!” We need to get rid of the picture envy that’s fueled by facebook and magazines and teen programs.
We need to start living mutually respectful lives – I respect your son and daughter ma’am. I respect the way God uniquely designed us and I’m not going to exploit them by the way me and my girls dress or project ourselves in pictures. And that is ok! I haven’t lost my freedom or given up my femininity or my woman’s rights or anything else by doing that. All I did was practice respect for all our daughters and all our sons.
So I’m starting a campaign to KeepItOn. To take a stand against the picture envy out there and all the sexually exploitive messages directed at our kids and let them know that they are valued simply because they are here. If you're interested in joining the Twitter handle is KeepItOn4TheWin because once we start working together on this we ALL win - moms, sons, and daughters!